PODCAST EPISODE № 8

Do you even have TIME to date?

by Anita Charlot

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Being a BOSS can be lonely at times; the long hours, tight schedule, the demands of life all manage to get in the way of those things that we would like to do, but just can’t find the time to do.

That is what I would like to show you in this 4-part series. Exactly how to find the time, prepare your mind, heart, and schedule, how to stop attracting the “clingy ones,” and the value of working with a relationship coach to help you bring it all together.

Let’s begin.

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What You Learn:

How to successfully map out your energy and time
Where you want to be putting your energy versus where your energy is actually going
If you have time to dedicate to a committed relationship and where to find it
How to reclaim your time and energy and put it towards your top priorities!

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Episode Transcript

Being a BOSS can be lonely at times; the long hours, tight schedule, the demands of life all manage to get in the way of those things that we would like to do, but just can’t find the time to do. That is what I would like to show you in this 4-part series. Exactly how to find the time, prepare your mind, heart, and schedule, how to stop attracting the “clingy ones,” and the value of working with a relationship coach to help you bring it all together. Let’s begin.
    
Do you even have TIME to date?
    
As a high-achieving, ambitious woman, your schedule is packed with activities. Meetings, bake sales, pick up and deliveries, conference calls, ZOOM lives, online events, household chores, aging parents, children, grandchildren, and adult children still living at home. As a woman with goals, you know exactly what this life feels like.
    
You have the desire for companionship, but you do not have time for games, clingy men, or to rearrange your entire schedule for yet another person one of your friends or family wants to “hook you up” with. Heck, you’re still trying to forget about the last dating fiasco you recently experienced, so starting over again does not appeal to you at all.
    
Listen, I get it. I was exactly where you are now, and then it hit me. The more time I spent focusing on others, the less time I had left for myself. Hanging out with the girls was fun; girl’s trips, shopping sprees, they all worked to fill the time, but when I was alone, I craved a relationship of my own.
    
The first problem I identified was that I honestly did NOT have the time. Where would I even fit a date into my schedule? So that’s where I started, and that’s where I would like to invite you to start. Even if you are not actually in the market for a relationship, this is a great exercise to help you determine exactly WHERE all of your time is going and why you are so exhausted at the end of the day.
    
To help me identify where my time was going, I created the Relationship Energy Wheel™. The purpose of this energy wheel is to bring awareness to where you are giving the most of your spiritual energy. If you complete this wheel being 100% honest with yourself, you will have the answer to why you are:
·         Always tired 
·         Feel overwhelmed
·         Undervalued
·         Unappreciated
·         Overstimulated
·         Etc.
    
As soon as you begin to fill in your energy wheel, you will become aware of how many things are energetically draining you—being energetically drained and not understanding how it has ruined plenty of relationships and even careers. It even causes you to point the finger at other people, when in reality, it is all because of the too many things that you are doing or are involved with. 
    
For those that are not used to focusing on themselves, this exercise will be most beneficial to you while at the same time may cause a bit of anxiety. Know that this is normal and do yourself a huge favor and “feel the fear and do it anyway.” Once you complete this exercise, you can begin to make healthier choices that will help you to not only “recall your spirit” but maybe, for the first time in a long time, begin to feel whole again.
    
So I’m going to give you the instructions now, and I want to begin by asking you to grab a large piece of paper. When you get this piece of paper, draw a circle in the middle, and then write your name in the middle of the circle, or if you would like to use a template that I have created for my clients, head on over to the show notes to download it for free. 
   
Next, I want you to draw one spoke per person, activity or organization that you give time to throughout your week to include the things that you want to do, but can’t find the time for. You should write family members’ names down individually as you give each one of them your individual attention. So if you can visualize with me, if you haven’t downloaded your sheet of paper yet, you’re drawing a circle in the middle of the page, you’re writing your name in the middle. And then if you think about a sundial, or a wheel, an old wheel of course, or a hubcap, put it that way, draw one spoke and at the top of that spoke I want you to write your hero few examples you can write like mother or father. If you have children, you need to write each one of those creative spoke for each one of the kids’ names. Then you could put like church, work, pets, maybe sorority friends put each one of the friends’ names down. Additional relatives if, you know, you’re the person that they call, put each one of those people’s names down. Exercise, you know, whatever it is that you do, the things that you do that you want to do, the things that you do that you don’t necessarily want to do, I want you to write them all down. The goal is to capture every area in which you are giving your attention, so that you can do the next step, which is rate them. 
    
So after you have completed your wheel, I want you to go back and rate each item in terms of how important you think they are, or how much time they take. And the rating scale is from one to three. So number one are the things you must continue to do, or people you must continue to give energy to. Okay, the things that you must continue to do or people you must continue to give energy to, they get one. Number two are the things that you feel you can give less time to or postpone for a later date. So what we’re looking for is we’re looking to reclaim time in your schedule. So if there’s something that you can push off to another week, another month, another year, I need you to put a two next to that. Number three, the things you can let go of the things that are not serving you. So maybe those things that you feel obligated to do. But you always find time to not go to that meeting or to that function. You always come up with an excuse. Let’s cut the excuses and just put a three next to it, because if you don’t really want to do it, whether you’re going or not, just the mental energy of feeling guilty about not going or having to come up with a reason why you can’t go is draining you. Do your best, then evaluate what you have identified as important to you to have the quality of life and love that you want.
    
If you have completed Your 3-Lists from a previous episode, then I want you to consider the items you’ve identified and make the decision today to begin to shift a few things around to honor the spirit that is you. If you have not created Your 3-Lists, head on over to the show notes, and download your copy of Your 3-Lists, and the instructions on how to fill that out. Previous episodes have talked about it as well, so if you want to stop now, or if you want to complete this one and then go back to listen to the other episodes, feel free to do so. 
    
My suggestion is to pull out this template, the Energy Wheel, whenever you begin to feel overwhelmed. Notice where you are giving your energy, and take the time to create a shift in your life. As part of the Executive Relationship Mastermind Group launching this fall, I will teach an entire class on the Energy Wheel. The women will have the opportunity to receive on-the-spot coaching specific to their circumstances and mindset work to help them overcome the guilt associated with letting go of the need to please everyone.
    
Honey, it’s time for you to honor YOU! Head on over to the show notes and download your copy along with instructions today!

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Do you even have TIME to date?

PODCAST EPISODE № 8

Do you even have TIME to date?

by Anita Charlot

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PODCAST EPISODE № 8

Do you even have TIME to date?

by Anita Charlot

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