Dare to Be Happy

In Business & In Love

Learn how to Heal from Relational and Corporate Trauma, Increase Your Confidence and Leadership Skills, and ACTivate Your Privilege!™

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Are you ready to increase your confidence, heal from past corporate and relational trauma, learn the tools to stand in, and promote your particular zone of genius?
Then you're in the right place!

meet anita charlot

award-winning coach, Author, & professional speaker

Meet Anita

For over 20 YEARS, I have focused on relationships, dating, relationships, and marriage coaching. And while there will always be an aspect of my business that touches on these areas as a woman in business, the time has come for me to marry my metaphysical self with my corporate experience to heal corporate America.

As black people in business, particularly in corporate America, we have suffered and continue to suffer in various ways. Companies are building DEI programs without really understanding the experience of black people, our multigenerational trauma, and how that affects us while “working while black.”

In my studies and recent work on trauma, it has become more apparent to me how black people tend to brush things off or call them “issues” vs. acknowledging that what they have experienced IS trauma, multigenerational urban trauma, and corporate trauma.

We are so accustomed to the daily microaggressions, being misunderstood, and having to fight for the opportunities that come naturally to others that we brush it off, not realizing that the residue of those feelings stays with us. It is making us sick mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually.

So here’s to helping women (particularly black women) heal from corporate trauma, increase their confidence in the workplace, and help white people who REALLY want to be an ally… 
“ACTivate Your Privilege!™.”

For my sisters in business for themselves, I’m also here for you.

While you will have similar experiences as those in corporate America, you will have your own unique set of challenges; I understand what those are and can help you grow and prosper through them.

It’s time you put your needs first Sis!

my method of coaching focuses on...


Heal from past Personal and Relational Trauma so that you can show up in every area of your life as your authentic self.


Increase Your Confidence, find and learn how to use your voice, and free yourself from limiting behaviors that are holding you back in all areas of your life.


ACTivate Your Privilege!™ and receive support as you recognize your truth, uncover your unconscious bias, and learn how to put your privilege in action for black women by a black woman.

“I was not the healer,
she was for us both”

“Anita was one of my first participants in our online Trauma-Informed training. We got to know each other well as she worked through the training material and her own traumatic experiences. As she got closer to session 7, I thought, “What is Anita going to say about this?”

Well, in pure, honest, and unabashed fashion (which is what makes Anita one of my favorite humans), she not only called out the elephant in the room, but she also called me on my bullshit and reminded me that I could do better. She did this during this intense training with all the fears of COVID while confronting her own transgenerational trauma and perpetuated social injustices.

SHE carried ME along with her during her transformation. I feel so much gratitude for having Anita in my life, personally and professionally.

She continues to be a voice of change and growth for all participants that attend my trauma trainings now as a Guest Facilitator speaking to the social injustices in the professional world.

She continues to shoulder the burden of social, professional, political, and systemic trauma with grace, compassion, and honesty, allowing us all the opportunity to learn and do better.

In Gratitude and Service,
Kirsten (Kaye) Wilkinson, MA, TCTSY-F, E-RYT 500, RCYT, Qi Gong and iRest Certified, Thai Yoga Massage Certified, Ayurvedic Health Practitioner, Mind/Body Practitioner, Somatic Experiencing Advanced Cohort, Breathe to Heal Facilitator

Ways to Work Together

One-Time Intensive


You are not yet ready to commit to a monthly coaching program but have a business or personal needs you need to get clarity on…today!

This One-Time Intensive is for you!

Executive Coaching Programs


Whether you need help healing from corporate or personal trauma, increasing your confidence and leadership skills, or working in a safe space to identify your unconscious bias to be a better ally for black and brown women, we can create a tailor-made program for you!

For My Black and Brown Sisters™ Mastermind Community


Where high-achieving women, just like you, come together twice a month to network, receive coaching, and masterclasses, exclude events and retreats, work-life balance options, learn, grow, learn from, and support one another.

"I am confident in Anita’s ability to help you find love."

I met Anita a few years ago in a business class. I knew she was a relationship expert and would causally tune into what she was saying. But I was focused on my career and laser-focused. I had a string of short-lived, shallow associations— wouldn’t even call them relationships, really. I dated for sport. 

 Just from her creating a safe place— judgment-free but still full of honest love and solid advice, I was able to start doing the work to prepare my heart for love. And when he showed up, it was truly love at first sight. We promised forever together the third time we saw each other. The ring and whatnot would come later (they are expensive, lol). But I knew he was the one, and a year later— we are officially engaged and beyond happy.

It was refreshing and empowering to know I had her cheering me on, but also not keeping track of my mistakes. She allows you to discover your own mistakes, pull the lessons that you can from them, and forgive yourself so you can move on. 

*Client update, they are now happily married!

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